Ohhh I know…it’s been waaay to long since I’ve updated everyone. Eeep! I do apologize for that! Lots have happened since I last posted an update. The good, the bad and the ugly.
- In December we finished the first part of our massive paperwork. Phew.
- We also had our homestudy done in January and are homestudy approved! woot, woot!
The bad & ugly.
After 9 months of paperwork and a few thousand dollars into this, we found out that we will not be adopting from the Philippines after all.
Even though the first and main question I asked at our initial information meeting (back in June 2010) was about the religious requirements, it seems that after ALL this time, we won’t meet that requirement (Parent must demonstrate a relationship of at least 5 years with a religious or spiritual organization.). Our agency didn’t catch this until now. Now, after we’ve already had our minds and hearts set on the Philippines. Now, after we already are emotionally and financially invested. They did try to “fix” this; our agency sent our religious affiliation letter to the Philippines for pre-approval (before we got any farther in the process), but it seems that, even though the Philippines is okay with us and our letter (they really didn’t want to refuse a Filipino family a Filipino child), they don’t think it will pass the Inter-County Adoption Board (ICAB) since it is a requirement for the Philippines. And if the ICAB doesn’t approve, then our dossier would never make it to the Philippines, regardless.
We are a little heart-broken. We were really looking forward to adopting from the Philippines and still being able to share that cultural background with our child.
Back to The good.
- We have decided to continue our adoption journey and adopt from Korea!
- Luckily, the $$ we spent up to date and most of the paperwork we’ve already done will transfer over to the Korea program.
- There are MANY pros to us adopting from Korea:
- No dossier! Once we are homestudy approved (which we already are), our homestudy gets sent to the agency in Korea, we send paperwork to the U.S. Citizenship and Immigration Services and we are on the wait list!
- This brings us to pro #2, shorter wait times! With the Philippines, we had an estimated 2 year wait. Korea’s average wait time is 1 year or less to receive a referral.
- We could bring home a younger child. The youngest we could adopt from the Philippines was 2 years old; we could get placed with a child as young as 7 months from Korea. I think we’re still going to aim for toddler age, but we’ll see. ;o)
- One of my Besties is half-Korean. After talking to her on the phone, she seemed pretty excited for us and I am totally going to be expecting her to be the favorite “Auntie”.
We are not adopting from the Philippines anymore. BUT we will be adopting from Korea. AND that means we could have an addition to our family by this time next year! That also means that we need to get our arse in gear and fundraise! When adopting from the Philippines, we thought we had 2 years to raise and save money. Now it looks like we’ll need to save and raise a lot more, a lot sooner. So this is where I ask you to help out! If you haven’t scored one of our awesome “Adoption Rock’s” shirts, puuuulease do! I also have toddler sizes and totebags available. Or donate $1.50 and get an awesome sticker!